After I graduated from college I didn’t know what to expect from the “real world” I was not sure what I was getting myself into. It took me many years to wake up and realize that there is a bigger game being played around me and I needed to catch up if I wanted to stand a chance at succeeding in life.
I had to listen to my gut and know that there was so much more that I could be doing with my spare time. The three main themes that I will be talking about are learning, seeking truth, and growing.
It took me a long time to get up to this point and I feel like I will continue to change and evolve into something new and different but these principals stand pretty firm with me right now.
Learning is such a big arena and encompasses so much. The first thing I thought about when I heard learn was school. Well that was 6 years ago fresh out of college, now a lot has changed my point of view. I am constantly scratching my own itch on what I am curious about. We are so lucky to have the Internet at our hands and Google is my best friend.
I had such negative feeling towards books all throughout school and that is because very few books intrigued me to an extent that I felt strongly motivated to read them. It wasn’t after college that I started to read for my own personal growth. Reading books was a realization I came to when looking at my goals and dreams came in direct conflict with my actions of playing video games and watching countless hours of TV.
None of these actions was going to get me any closer to my goals. Learning provides an opportunity for action and growth. Learning takes a conscious effort and it is a responsibility that I feel to myself as well. I had to learn firstly how I learn. Then break it down further in order to maximize my learning.
I learned how important preparation to everything is and how I can use the Pareto principal to my advantage. This is the 80/20 principal that 80% of the results come from 20% of the work. Those who are the best, prepare the most.
Seeking truth can be a long journey and it is always a unique experience for everyone. Taking the time to question common beliefs or simply asking, why? Knowing why something is done a certain way or why you should believe in something can lead you into a deeper lying issue where the journey of truth may begin. I questioned thoughts that had been burned into my brain, the rich are just very lucky, I am a B student, I am an introvert.
This allowed me to open up to not only others but to myself, be vulnerable and learn about me. Take that time to take a step back and realize that I can change. I am giving myself permission to change and I am solely responsible for this change. It is a decision that I chose for myself.
I take the responsibility to learn and seek truth and do my own research. Learn from others that are smarter, wiser, and happy. That can by a mentor, book, or an experience. It is no longer the end that I have in mind; I changed my mindset and now I think about the present moment, the journey that I am experiencing.
Growth comes from action and being courageous enough to step outside the comfort zone. Stepping into the unknown is easier to say than to do. I have my own mental road blocks because I have this fear of disappointing my parents and family, fear of failure and losing everything I have to this point.
Those who are fulfilled and have achieved so much did not get there by always playing it safe. I need a challenge to help push me forward and do more uncomfortable things. My worst fear of all is to stagnate and not challenge the status quo. I know I am capable of so much more; it is not how much I know but how much I do. Now it is game time, it is time to show and walk the walk. Knowing is not enough.
Nothing will change unless I do something about it. Growth has brought me so much happiness because I could point to so many things within the last year that I have done to improve and learn from. Toastmasters is only one example of the kinds of things that I have stuck to in order to provide the change I need in order to get to where I want to go. Freedom and owning my time is a big goal of mine.
I need to align myself to live a life full of passion. The only way that is going to happen is by going all in on my strengths and being the best version of myself that I can be. Only that way I will stand a chance at achieving and fulfilling my dreams and aspirations.