Crashed my bike into a house when I was 8. . .

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Being scared of failing and looking like an idiot is still a fear I am learning to deal with.

It is so common and there is so much you can read on this subject alone. The problem is that reading more about it doesn’t help making it go away.

Taking more action has helped though. Instead of over thinking or being stuck in the same place, I choose to do something about it.

Reach out to someone smarter than me, listen instead of talk.

Changing my mentality around this is really tough. Dwelling on this for longer than I need to is crippling.

Learn more by doing than thinking. Get on the bike, pedal a few times and see where you go.

Focusing on the process and not thinking so much about the ultimate goals.

As long as your values align with your goals and ambitions then you will turn out just fine.

I remember falling off my bike so many times when I was younger. I still have scars to prove it. I look at them pretty frequently.

Now I choose to look at them and remind myself that I got up and got back on that bike again.

Not afraid to get back on because I knew the ride would be worth it.

I may fall many more times, bleed, and earn another scar but at least I will be doing something about it instead of walking or sitting down my whole life.

I crashed into my aunts house when I was 8. I enjoyed going as fast as I can and when the chain fell off the bike it was too late to put on the brakes and crashed!

Went unconscious. Woke up a couple minutes later.

I was perfectly fine. ( for the most part) 😉

Riding my bike within a couple days.

Being younger it is easier to not overthink things.

As an adult having too many thoughts and believing in those thoughts is easy to do.

Not taking the time to question them or question our beliefs.

Challenging ourselves to our highest potential.

Always get back on the bike. Choosing fear over potential is the biggest weakness.

Dance with fear, acknowledge that it is there but then don’t become crippled by it.

Easier said with done so start with something small and work your way up.

Small steps lead to massive changes.

I didn’t like reading so I chose to listen to audiobooks instead through Audible.

Finding a solution instead of finding an excuse is a crucial skill to build.

Instead of thinking “Oh we can’t do X because we don’t have enough money.” Think about, HOW can you afford it, save up, do work on the side, help provide value to the other person.

Value= ? How do you define value. It has taken me such a long time to clearly define value and what this means. How does one provide value when you can’t define it beyond money.

The most basic definition that I have been able to find is: Providing someone with something that they need or want that will solve their problem. Now that is a very broad definition so let’s break it down a bit.

You can introduce a person to someone else. Basically saving them the work of having to find someone. Saving them time, energy, money, or thinking power.

The problem here becomes knowing what their problems or frustrations are? There is where listening comes into play.

There are so many other forms of value beyond money that it is too easy to get trapped in the system of monetary exchange.

Think creatively, outside the box, be thoughtful and different. No one remembers ordinary.

Take the challenge of being thoughtful to one person this week and do a generous deed. Not because you expect something back. Things have a funny way of catching up eventually.

Let me know what happens 🙂

send me an email jessi@jessimendoza.com

About the author

Jessi Mendoza

Washington State University Alumni, Financial Services Professional, passionate about Self Development and investing in oneself.

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