My mom told me when I was younger that I can be whoever I choose to be.
A lawyer, President of the United States, Doctor, and even a Businessman.
I chose to be a Businessman.
I was born in the U.S. and for that, I will forever be grateful. I understand how much of an opportunity I have to make my dreams come true in this country.
My parents have sacrificed so much to give me and my siblings a better opportunity for education, resources, and overall life success.
Now it is up to me to take advantage of all of these resources available and make something of myself.
I believe that in my heart.
My mom planted a seed in me at an early age. My ambition was born.
Now that I have grown, I have slowly learned how that seed has sprouted many dreams and ambitious goals.
One thing is to have a big goal and dream to become someone great, but then I thought, okay, how do I actually accomplish these ambitious dreams. I was so lost. I didn’t know to who to reach out to or where to start.
It was hard on me when I had to translate english documents back to my parents in Spanish. Whenever I had trouble with homework I couldn’t go to them for help because they only knew Spanish.
I had to learn to be self reliant and to be able to figure things out on my own.
At first I thought this was a weakness. I would cry and get frustrated because I thought the homework was too hard and I felt helpless. I didn’t know who to turn to.
It is my own ego and pride that prevented me from asking others for help. Or even the teacher for that matter.
I see my ego gets in the way of my writing & videos.
My parents did not have much of an education. Both went to 2nd or 3rd grade.
Some of their limiting beliefs about money and rich people were passed down to me.
I now notice how much the scarcity mentality played a role in how we lived our daily lives.
My values of family, honesty, and humility will always stick with me. I work hard to exemplify those in my daily interactions with people.
Now I am more confident in my own skills and I know that I can be of service to others and provide value.
I remember I was spanked by my dad for behaving inappropriately. I saw him as an authority figure who I did not like but respected. I thought about running away in the small orchard town where I lived. I could survive off the apples and go fishing in the river I thought. I was 9 at the time. I still had so much to learn.
I had dark thoughts, almost to the point of contemplating suicide. Just to see if my parents would care. Thank goodness it never progressed from there.
I didn’t know what I was thinking or doing. I would go through troubling thoughts of why would my dad hurt me so bad when I was simply trying to play with other kids. I cried for an hour, alone in my bed while I watched the kids play outside.
My dad wanted me to mow the lawn, pull weeds, do chores around the house. Looking back, I now know why he showed me and taught me how to be disciplined enough to do all of these things.
He was teaching me valuable lessons of life at an early age when I didn’t want to listen. I didn’t care about all of the chores or necessary things that needed to be done around the house.
It has taken me a long time to distill the lessons learned and how it has impacted my personality, behavior, and mentality. In many ways it has shaped who I am today.
So many influences in my life changed the course of where I would have ended up.
My dad had the largest influence and I will forever be thankful for him. Not the most patient guy in the world but no one is perfect either. I am not sure how patient I would have been with myself either. 😉
How do I decipher everything that I went through and distill it into lessons learned? Difficult to do but here is my crack at it!
- Always remain curious and keep learning even though you may be out of school
- Don’t depend on others to give you the answers, it is up to you
- The more uncomfortable you feel, the more you will learn about yourself and grow from it
- Adversity is part of the journey, learning how to accept it and push through it will only help make you stronger
Now I will give you many ideas on how you can execute these lessons in real life and make them as practical as possible. These you can start implementing today. No excuses.
- Learn your learning style- pictures, video, audio, reading. How do you learn and WHAT are you curious about? Go learn more about it and try different methods of learning until you find the one that you like and that helps you. Always keep learning.
- Write down on a piece of paper, what you enjoy doing, why you enjoy doing it, and where can you expand that in other areas of your life.
- Which frustrations keep coming up in your life- both personal & professional? What can you do to reduce the chances of these situations. Can you automate, delegate or create systems that help you out? Ex: Create reminders in your calendar of certain recurring things that need to be dealt with. (Bills, events, and meetings)
I knew I was different when the other kids in elementary wouldn’t want to play with me. I was loud, obnoxious and annoying. I had a lot of energy and did not know how to control it.
In Jr. High I reserved all my energy into shyness and hardly ever stepped out of my comfort zone to talk to others or strangers. I kept to myself through high school and even some of college.
I didn’t know how to break out of my shell and out of this protective barrier I had created for myself. This was a protective mechanism that I used in order to not be made fun of or picked on.
Girls didn’t like me or want to date me. I built up a fear of rejection and beat myself up for not being handsome enough.
“Why couldn’t I be as popular or as handsome as that guy,” I thought to myself. I would compare myself to others and consistently think about what others thoughts about me.
This was a downward spiral from there.
Luckily in college, I could be a new person and started to talk to new people and realized that everyone was strangers and it became easier to make friends.
I was fortunate enough to have a few family members who would introduce me to their friends.
Specific things I did: I asked myself what is the worst thing that could happen? What if I talk to that girl? Worst case scenario she doesn’t talk to me back. What if I talk to that stranger and start a conversation?
I had to take a step back and look at the bigger picture of life. Did I want to be like this forever? NO!!!
I want to be free more than anything. I made the pain larger than the fear. Fear of humiliation, the truth was that it was the fear was all in my head. I had built it up to something that was not even real.
Take a step back and look at your life. Where are you and what do you see yourself like. Are these two aligned? If not, then start drawing out the changes and how you will execute these changes.