I have had to learn many things the hard way simply because I didn’t know any better.
I didn’t know how to reach out to strangers and ask for help about achieving success.
I didn’t know how they got where they are now.
I was curious.
I genuinely wanted to know and I was determined to find out a way.
Success and failure both leave clues.
I knew that I was not getting any closer to my ideal lifestyle by watching more TV or spending more time on Facebook.
But the thing is, why am I doing all of this?
What do I have to prove? To who?
I have to dig deeper to find a true and valid reason for this.
I may not even know if this is the true reason, but I am getting closer.
What made me into who I am today? My parents. Both of them.
My values, who and what I am today.
No seas bueno pa’ nada
(don’t be a good for nothing)
My dad would say to me when I would either make a mistake or not do anything to help out around the house.
I knew that I needed to learn to be better from each experience.
My mistakes were pointed out each and every time. I mowed the lawn when I could barely push the lawn mower. I missed a big piece of grass in the corner and I was reprimanded for it. Spanked for it at times.
As difficult of a time as this was, I had to go through it to learn the harsh lessons buried deep within the experiences.
I learned that I couldn’t expect to always be playing and not putting in the work.
I needed the discipline in my life and I had to control where I spent my time.
It’s too easy to watch TV. That’s the default choice.
Doing the hard work and being consistent is far more difficult.
The hard work consists of introspection and learning. I thought I was done learning and reading when I was done with school.
Boy was I wrong.
My learning and growing up was just beginning.
The key ideas is not to rely on others. You control yourself and how you react. You maintain responsibility for what you do and what happens to you.
Separate yourself from the situation and determine how you were responsible for getting yourself into the predicament.
I would make up excuses for myself. “Well I don’t know what to do with my life or what to do about it”
I could have let this stop me but I didn’t. I asked wiser people for advice. Gathered up the courage to ask strangers who have now become friends.
How did I gather the courage? By making the pain of living with this unknowing stronger than the pain of the reaction I could POTENTIALLY get.
When I pinned those two against each other the answer was clear! I had to start doing some uncomfortable things if I wanted to align my path to where I ultimately envisioned myself being.
I could have stayed stuck for years. Running in circles. Continue to do what I always have been doing.
That would be the default easy choice. I chose difficult. Anything of value comes with time and work.
My time would not be wasted because I still continue to unravel the onion of my truths.
I was selfish and in some ways I still am. Recognizing this and being aware of it allows me to act on it and work on this attribute.
Without the work comes no reward. Planting the seeds now will help reap the harvest in the fall.
Life is full of seasons. I realize I need to take advantage of all seasons. There’s many opportunities in each one.
I have 1 life and I plan to make the most of it by influencing, teaching, and helping others. Being of value to my community and family.
Creating impact and necessary change in the world. 1 person at a time.
In the coming weeks I will be sharing more of my personal story and the lessons learned, how it impacted me, and how I have learned from each experience.
Until next time. 🙂